It’s inevitable: Your spending will go up during the holidays. Between travel costs, holiday gifts and a hearty increase in hot chocolate consumption, you’re debit and credit cards will more use more in November and December than any other time of the year.
The key is to recognize this shift in spending and plan for it. That way you can spend guiltlessly for your visit home for the holidays but avoid the shock of unloading all your gifts at the Target checkout line.
Like all money matters, it starts with your values. Pick a day in October or November to check in with yourself, your partner or your kids about what make the holidays special to you. The main categories for this are gifts, experiences, travel and charity.
There are no right or wrong answers here. Choosing gifts over charity doesn’t make you shallow. This is about priorities during the holiday season. If you already give generously year-round, you can be honest about wanting to lavish your loved ones with gifts for a couple months.
As with most financial strategies, it’s about knowing yourself.
“Especially during the holidays, we can feel trapped by ‘keeping up with the Jonses’ and neglect the things that will truly bring us and our families joy,” Erik Siverson, senior financial advisor at North Star Resource Group, points out. “It’s important to be mindful and to know what it is that is most important to you and then to ensure that your money decisions are aligned with those priorities.”
This doesn’t mean you’re picking where to spend the most amount of money. You may value experiences above all else, but the experiences you love are reading a book as a family around the fireplace. This is a free activity, but it’s still more important to you than any present you could give or receive.
Sum up in one sentence what would make your holiday season a success. Example: “Taking time to experience all my city’s holiday traditions will make me feel like the holiday was a success.” or “Being able to afford gifts my kids love, without going into debt, would make this the best holiday season.”
Be realistic here for what you can afford after necessities (rent, utilities, food, car payment, etc.) and for what you want your holiday to look like. Avoid comparing with what other people seem to be spending.
To determine your spending limit, first make sure you are setting a limit that aligns with your holiday and lifetime goals.
“The best way to determine how much you should spend is to first determine if you are saving enough to reach your goals,” says Tanner Fedell, financial advisor at North Star Resource Group in Dallas. “If you are saving enough, it gives you permission to allocate whatever is leftover how you see fit based on your values and enjoy guilt-free spending.”
If you have a monthly budget for all expenses (including entertainment, eating out, etc.) see if you have a large enough surplus to use for holiday spending. If you don’t have enough, investigate ways to cut back. Maybe you forego eating out or suspend your Netflix account to make up the money lost.
If you simply can’t cut back your monthly budget anymore to save for holiday spending, you have a choice to make 1) reduce your holiday expectations or 2) plan to take out a small loan by using your credit card.
Option one is usually the wiser choice if you remain realistic. With option two, you should still be very minimal with your spending. Use your credit card with the lowest interest rate and make plans to pay off your balance as soon as possible.
Next, try to divide your limit among your priorities: gifts, experiences, travel and charity. These numbers will change, so don’t try to make it perfect yet.
Start with what your top priority is and work down from there:
Start by listing out everyone you need to get a gift for, and then list how much you’re willing to spend on each person. When you’re done, add up the costs. Is this number higher than you can safely spend on presents this year? You may need to shorten your list or to decrease what you spend on each person.
Start by listing out all your holiday traditions and then anything you would like to try new this year, including any holiday parties you’re throwing or attending. Rearrange your list in order of what you want to do most. Now, put a price next to each activity, including any food, clothing or travel costs that would be included.
Work your way down the list scheduling activities in your calendar (this is the fun part!) and stop scheduling once you’ve reached your spending limit for this category.
If you can’t fit all your can’t-miss activities in under this category’s spending limit, you can borrow from a category that is a lower priority, or you can look into ways to make experiences cheaper.
Some people love taking their family vacations over the holidays, while others need to travel to see close family that lives far away. Whatever your situation, you will probably need to budget for some travel expenses over the holidays.
If you’re struggling to find the space in the budget to do this, consider ways to save.
Remember, charitable giving isn’t just for the super wealthy.
“Charitable giving, regardless of income, is important for a few reasons,” says Tanner Fedell, financial advisor at North Star. “The obvious is that you are contributing to a good cause. But there is something else that happens when you decide to give some of your money away: You’re making the powerful statement to yourself that you won’t let money be a master over you and you’ll use it for the greater good.”
If charitable giving is one of your top values, don’t leave it for the leftovers when you’ve used up the rest of your spending budget. Instead, list out charities or causes that are the most important to you. This could be a nonprofit you give to year-round or a cause you became passionate about this year. Decide how much to give to each charity and start donating!
You may also choose some creative ways to give back:
A budget is only useful when you use it. Whenever you spend money on something for the holidays, don’t forget to track it! If you know you won’t be able to track everything, take out cash for each of your categories of spending (gifts, experiences, travel and charity) and put each in an envelope. Only spend from that envelope, so when the money is gone, it’s gone.
Budgeting apps are a useful tool for tracking gift recipients and holiday spending.
Buying last-minute additions to presents is so tempting, but it will destroy your budget. Stick to your list, and when you have someone covered, cross them off. Remember, a great present shouldn’t be proof of how much you love or know someone, it is just an expression of your gratitude for them in your life!
This can be harder with experiences and charity. Saying no to a spontaneous trip to the winter carnival or turning down an opportunity to give money seems coldhearted. If you find yourself in these situations, consider how you may be able to make some tradeoffs.
Maybe you go to the carnival, but that means you skip the planned for peppermint mochas each time you go out.
Instead of answering every letter, email and phone call asking for charitable giving, make a list of places where you would really love to give and set up manageable monthly donations in your year-round budget so you can still give without dropping so much money all at once.
Don’t let your money-smart habits end when the holidays do! You can start preparing for next year now by putting away a little bit each month to remove any stress and guilt come November.
Here’s how to get started:
Having the money ahead of time is one of the best things you can do for financial wellness. Erik Siverson, senior financial advisor at North Star, notes:
Having an appropriate savings strategy throughout the year allows you to even out unplanned expenses when they arise, whether emergencies or fun opportunities like holiday vacations, without the stress of having to choose where to cut back in other areas.
Instead of paying off your purchases for months after December 25th with a high credit card interest rate, you’re preparing yourself for a money-smart future holiday season.
The number one cause of stress for Americans at any age is money.1 Some of this is due to poor spending habits and non-existent savings strategies. Understanding your financial goals, based on your personal priorities, and creating a roadmap for reaching them is a great way to reduce stress during Christmas and year-round.
Creating a goals-based strategy can also help you enjoy the money that you have, allowing it to work for you, rather than the other way around. Fedell shares how this works:
A recent client of mine told me their dad had saved every dollar he had and never enjoyed it during his working years. Sadly, he passed away right before he was planning to retire. I’m not suggesting you shouldn’t plan for the future, but there is an important aspect of setting aside a certain amount each month in your budget into a “Fun” or “Travel” or “Gift” account so it’s not just all work and no play.
A financial advisor can help you balance these priorities.
If you are ready to talk to a financial advisor about how you can start preparing for a financially-sound holiday season and beyond, contact one of our 150+ qualified financial advisors for a complimentary, no-obligation consultation.
Tanner works with clients to discover their essential goals before formulating a financial strategy, so the client’s finances fully support their goals. Tanner is also an experienced speaker, mostly speaking to physicians, dentists and attorneys about their financial health.
Tanner is involved at his church called One Chapel in Dallas, and he enjoys spending his personal time with his wife Chelsie or spending it fishing, hunting, traveling or working out.
Erik and his team work to incorporate a relaxed and educational approach to help clients feel comfortable and confident making decisions that will impact them and their families for years to come.
As many of their clients are busy professionals, Erik and his team help by ensuring they are making decisions aligned with their goals and that they have all the information necessary to make such decisions.
He enjoys spending time with his wife (and business partner), Jenna, and his three kids, Zoe, Jonah, and Hope. As a member and former board member of Metropolis Rugby, he enjoys playing rugby in his spare time. Additionally, Erik enjoys riding his motorcycle, traveling, and the outdoors and is also an accomplished hair braider and master pillow fort builder.